Tuesday, August 08, 2017
Today I am grateful for family celebrations. When you have a child who divorces it can be a logistical nightmare to keep a relationship with your grandkids. Ex’s don’t usually see eye-to-eye which is why there was a divorce in the first place. I am very happy that in our case, our collective families have combined so that we can all enjoy all of the children.
We were invited to our granddaughter’s house for her graduation-off-to-college celebration. It was great to re-connect with her other aunts, uncles, cousins and nan. We all miss Poppy, her grandpa from that side whom we lost too many years ago. Yes, all of us. . .because we are all family.
Our former daughter-in-law is now remarried with another child who has simply become another of our granddaughters and joins us for Christmas Eve. Our son is remarried with a year and a half old baby girl, too. While they don’t chum around together, all new spouses are friendly and gracious with the ex’s. That takes effort.
When I left my husband back in the day, his mom never, ever asked to see her grandsons again. They were rejected and forgotten. Even though I encouraged the opposite, my requests that they stay connected fell on deaf ears. It was the same with their aunts, uncles and cousins. No contact. They missed out. My kids missed out. I missed out. So believe me when I say I know how blessed we are that this is the case for our grandchildren now.
There are many configurations of families and many different characters in each. Here are some pictures of ours. And for the record. . .you have to adore your youngest granddaughter to post a picture of yourself and your waddle, just because she looks so cute! Yikes. Apparently some family members have more chins than others.